I am a very emotional person in general. I often wear my heart on my sleeve and it ends up getting trampled on a lot. The same goes on the other end too, if I have taken my heart away from someone, chances are it’s never going to warm up to them again. It would take a lot of time and effort and often me and the other party find that life is too short.

So here’s the thing, if you’re all logic and practical, chances are I won’t see eye to eye with you.
Because in my eyes, you will appear cold and talking to you would be like talking to my manager, where for every conflict resolution, I will have to bring a excel spreadsheet of events and justifications to make my case. Because I will have to prove my case to you like a lawyer to come to a compromise.

To me,empathy is a huge thing. I find that it is not so with the logical beings.
I feel a lot more for someone who tells me that I’ve hurt them than someone who says I have disrespected them.
Why? Hurting someone has to do with the emotions of love and care, the word disrespect has to do with pride and ego. Emotional people will say I have hurt them, logical people will say I have disrespected them. And guess which one I will feel for more?

In my world, sometimes I wouldn’t even need a reason to forgive someone, to forget the past, to move on. Emotions are such a powerful thing that just seeing someone I love in pain can be enough to forget all past wrongs, because of my love for them. I have done it before many many times. But people who are all logical cannot accept that. They would need a formal apology and resolution so they can close the case and move on.

I find Logical and Practical people are often very concerned with whether they are respected more than if they are loved, often not realizing, love and respect go hand in hand. To be respected the way you want to be, the other has to love you first, but they often just expect to get it without earning that love first.

I came across someone like that recently and all I can say is, I love my husband. My husband is not all emotional like me, where emotions effect everything but he is this fine balance of both.

It is a cold day outside. I see a homeless person sitting on the sidewalk. I take out my wallet. My logical husband stops me.
Husband: You know they spend the money on booze anyways, why do you bother? If they wanted help, they can get it, this is Canada.
Me: It’s freezing outside, I would like to think that I was able to buy him a warm cup of coffee. If he goes and buys booze, it’s his prerogative. But in my eyes, I am giving a cup of coffee to a man who is sitting outside in this freezing weather
He hugs me and says, this is why I love you, and drops the change in the guys cup on our behalf.

I am extremely lucky, my husband is a very good balance of logic and emotion. With my family, with me, with my friends, he uses his love for me as a base, and builds on it to earn their respect. I’ve often found myself not appreciate my husband as much as I should, because I’ve been with him so long, I often forget how good of a husband he is to me. It is when I see others in action, I truly start appreciating what I already have.