I’m starting to feel very bad for the decent girls in Canada who are from South Asian backgrounds.
It seems to me that being decent doesn’t pay off at all for the girls here. This thought arrived in my head after seeing several good decent single girls who are having trouble finding a decent guy. The problem seems to be that they are losing all the men to either slutty girls or girls from back home.
You lose the decent men to the slutty girls because
1) they put out
2)these girls have alot more “fun” partying and clubbing
3)they’re alot sexier, they dress more provocative and often grab your attention first.

Then there’s the girls back home. You can be as decent as you want here, it’s hard to compete with the girls back home who have more of the traditional values that a South Asian man expects, and the girls here just can’t compete, since we are “too modern”.

Basically, I feel very bad that when a girl remains decent here she has such a hard time finding a guy. In the old days it was the girls who slept around who had a harder time getting married, but nowadays I find most single girls are just the normal girls. Maybe they’ve dated a few guys, but it seems that the rumour of dating one guy seriously is more harmful than sleeping with a different guy every month. And guys who would want a decent girl will just opt out to find a girl back home.

I don’t really have alot of arguments for this because I end up thinking that it’s the guys fault as well for wanting either extremely slutty or the the virginal girl. To me it just seems silly that nice girls are losing out because they’re either not agressive enough or they’re not docile enough. I grew up here, and I dated my husband a long time before we got married, so it just makes me wonder what would’ve happened if it didn’t work out, and I was one of the single girls looking for a guy. I know I would never be able to go clubbing everynight to find a guy, and I would definitly be rejected by the guys who want a docile girl….

just something in the back of my head….